ON SOAP BOX!
I'm looking back. My first marriage we got together in February and we're engaged 6 months and married by the following May, together 15 months before our wedding. Second marriage, engaged after 6 months and married by the October, so a total of being together 13 months. I know of people that were together no more than <5>NEITHER of us want THAT kind of commitment. We are happy the way we are. Fucking hell, marriage/divorce...crap. My boyfriend has never wanted to go down that road and i am perfectly happy with that. We will never have kids and never move in together. We have the absolute perfect answer to a healthy relationship. We have no ties keeping us together, no mortgage, no signed lease, NO KIDS, we are together because we want to be. Simple as that. So many people are together for financial reasons because they have the house...and a family but desperately want to get out, but just can't do it, because quite frankly divorce is expensive (and so is child support).
IF we ever argue (which is rare btw), he can go to his house and sulk it out and i can stay in mine, whereas if you live together, you have that horrible atmosphere that lingers for sometimes days and days...i HATED that.
We've been together for 7 months (on Wednesday). He loves me and i love him, just the way we are. He has his life..doesn't answer to me, i don't answer to him...we do our own thing. He goes out..i stay in...lol...
I'm not saying the lack of commitment on his side didn't bother me a little at first, but then i got thinking...what the fuck does it matter? I've had marital commitment twice and it makes no difference. Okay, husband #1 was lovely..blah blah blah...but it ended in divorce and husband #2 treated me like a cock AND cheated on me. So whether you're married, engaged, living together...whatever...makes NO fucking difference at all. If you're going to be dumped/cheated on, you probably will be...regardless of any fucking ring on your finger!!!
I have PLENTY of lovely diamond rings that i have bought myself...i need no more ;)
...and OFF soap box :)
IF we ever argue (which is rare btw), he can go to his house and sulk it out and i can stay in mine, whereas if you live together, you have that horrible atmosphere that lingers for sometimes days and days...i HATED that.
We've been together for 7 months (on Wednesday). He loves me and i love him, just the way we are. He has his life..doesn't answer to me, i don't answer to him...we do our own thing. He goes out..i stay in...lol...
I'm not saying the lack of commitment on his side didn't bother me a little at first, but then i got thinking...what the fuck does it matter? I've had marital commitment twice and it makes no difference. Okay, husband #1 was lovely..blah blah blah...but it ended in divorce and husband #2 treated me like a cock AND cheated on me. So whether you're married, engaged, living together...whatever...makes NO fucking difference at all. If you're going to be dumped/cheated on, you probably will be...regardless of any fucking ring on your finger!!!
I have PLENTY of lovely diamond rings that i have bought myself...i need no more ;)
...and OFF soap box :)
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Marriage is for families (imho).
But since your current relationship suits you & your fella...that's the one to go for! Enjoy!
I've done my weddings and i think that i have been put off completely. Being married does not change anything. I wish it had of done. I wish my husband could have loved me, but he didn't. He never did, DESPITE saying those vows...made no difference.
If i ever wanted to get married again - i would have to find a man who wanted it too, but who also accepted my son and my illness. My boyfriend DOES accept those things 100%, and there is no ring needed :)
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If I ever actually get out somewhere to be able to meet someone :) it will be separate houses for me. I have been on my own way too long to think about having someone around 24/7.