This is strange.
So i called up my mother yesterday and was all happy from what i had done during the day, but i got little to no reaction. So i called off. A little later i phoned again, and again i got the same response. No "Well done" nothing like that, in fact, she was more preoccupied with the fact that Stink wanted his hair cut and she likes it slightly longer! That conversation was a struggle, she barely spoke to me.
This morning i speak to my sister to see if mum was in an okay mood with her and she said that yes, she was fine. 10 minutes ago, my sister called me back after having a chat with mum. Apparently, my mother is feeling no longer needed. I don't call her as much any more (NB. If you knew the hassle it is to call my mother. A) She never has her mobile on. B) If you call and she's still at work you are confronted with tuts and sighs from my step father, like i shouldn't be calling - no win situation). I can kind of understand that this could be an emotion she's feeling, but hang on - i've been fucking mental for 12 years, i don't want to be mental anymore and that means i have to go out, and on a weekend/Monday i wouldn't see her anyway - so that is a tad confusing.
So yeah.... what do i do? Right now, exercises :)
This morning i speak to my sister to see if mum was in an okay mood with her and she said that yes, she was fine. 10 minutes ago, my sister called me back after having a chat with mum. Apparently, my mother is feeling no longer needed. I don't call her as much any more (NB. If you knew the hassle it is to call my mother. A) She never has her mobile on. B) If you call and she's still at work you are confronted with tuts and sighs from my step father, like i shouldn't be calling - no win situation). I can kind of understand that this could be an emotion she's feeling, but hang on - i've been fucking mental for 12 years, i don't want to be mental anymore and that means i have to go out, and on a weekend/Monday i wouldn't see her anyway - so that is a tad confusing.
So yeah.... what do i do? Right now, exercises :)
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Don't be harsh on her, this is more than an emotion these are her feelings. Yes you've needed her for 12 years but she has needed you too. You've been her best friend all this time and given her your company. Probably helped her escape from your misery guts step father. Carry on calling her as usual and continue to go out with her now that you're feeling better. Otherwise she'll feel used and unwanted. Mum's never stop being a Mum and of course she's happy for you and wants to see you well. Relationships are two ways. She was more than just a carer to you! Maybe she did have a purpose looking after you. It would be great now if you can go out and enjoy a meal or a film or something together? I'm sure she'd like that xxxx
I just tried calling her again - mobile off. What else can i do?
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i thought the same as steph, maybe she prefers your company more than her husbands!!! dont give up, keep trying, you must mean alot to her for her to hurt. love the pictures of your day out, your boy looks like hes growing up. you should be proud of what you have achieved. x
I could see why she is feeling like this, but on the whole she should be proud as your learning to do things and not rely on her. That cn only be a positive thing.
I actually smiled when i read this as ive seen a great change in you since getting together with S, you look posively glowing as i wrote on your piccy and i as your friend am very very proud of you! :)
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