The straw that broke MY back....
I've had one hell of a few days.
After the BF went missing from his works 'do', climbed over his gate paralytic because he lost his key, fell, battered and bruised himself.... little did i know what i was in for next.....
... He Skyped me, which was great.... continuing to down shots at 7.00 in the morning. He went off to have a doze, which he did until 2pm. He Skyped me back - but then it all went wrong..... He started. He turned vile and nasty... Saying things i don't even want to repeat. I was fuming... This time, he really hurt me. He was saying things firstly that was completely untrue... THEN he went on to bang on out my mental health problems.... again.... and he topped it all off with blaming my mother... LINE.CROSSED.MUCH!? And finally he said "If you can find someone better...then do it...." To which i replied "By the way you've been going on about me for the last hour, i'm sure you could do the same...." then he cancelled skype.... So, yeah... i was left shocked and hurt.
Monday came and he acted like NOTHING had happened. I said nothing.
Yesterday he came round mine and i let it ALL out..... Everything. I started off by saying if he wants to get pissed, then don't see me.. don't talk to me, nothing, i want NO part of his drinking because it only ends up with him being verbally abusive and angry. Then i told him that i CANNOT put up with his shit any more, i don't deserve what he says/does to me. I've not ONCE in our entire relationship ever said anything nasty to him... NEVER, surprisingly he said that yes he was in fact a cock and that he shouldn't talk to me like that... but apparently things go round in his head when he's pissed, but these *things* that go round his head, don't even exist in reality....only IN HIS HEAD! He was very apologetic... but i said that IF it ever happens again, i'm gone... I've had all this verbal shit from the ex, i don't need nor deserve it again. Being drunk is NO excuse. I'm really done this time...
After the BF went missing from his works 'do', climbed over his gate paralytic because he lost his key, fell, battered and bruised himself.... little did i know what i was in for next.....
... He Skyped me, which was great.... continuing to down shots at 7.00 in the morning. He went off to have a doze, which he did until 2pm. He Skyped me back - but then it all went wrong..... He started. He turned vile and nasty... Saying things i don't even want to repeat. I was fuming... This time, he really hurt me. He was saying things firstly that was completely untrue... THEN he went on to bang on out my mental health problems.... again.... and he topped it all off with blaming my mother... LINE.CROSSED.MUCH!? And finally he said "If you can find someone better...then do it...." To which i replied "By the way you've been going on about me for the last hour, i'm sure you could do the same...." then he cancelled skype.... So, yeah... i was left shocked and hurt.
Monday came and he acted like NOTHING had happened. I said nothing.
Yesterday he came round mine and i let it ALL out..... Everything. I started off by saying if he wants to get pissed, then don't see me.. don't talk to me, nothing, i want NO part of his drinking because it only ends up with him being verbally abusive and angry. Then i told him that i CANNOT put up with his shit any more, i don't deserve what he says/does to me. I've not ONCE in our entire relationship ever said anything nasty to him... NEVER, surprisingly he said that yes he was in fact a cock and that he shouldn't talk to me like that... but apparently things go round in his head when he's pissed, but these *things* that go round his head, don't even exist in reality....only IN HIS HEAD! He was very apologetic... but i said that IF it ever happens again, i'm gone... I've had all this verbal shit from the ex, i don't need nor deserve it again. Being drunk is NO excuse. I'm really done this time...
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Kat.
I think you have done the exact right thing by talking to him and telling him the rules. You dont need the added stress of that kind of garbage on top of everything else.
Who knows though, maybe it will work out and he can stick to the rules and leave you alone if he wants to drink.
Anyone can find someone to treat them with respect whether you have an illness or not, and just because we have an illness, does not mean we dont DESERVE to be treated properly.
I hope you are okay xxx <3